Everyone keeps an extremely busy schedule these days between work, social, and family commitments. Adding the stress of planning an event that you will play the main role in, can often seem overwhelming and if not handled properly, can end up becoming your worst nightmare instead of a memorable journey to your wedding day. Here are 6 simple ways that if followed, can lead to Wedding Day Bliss!
1. Manage Your Wedding Planning Time – Life does not stop because you are now planning a wedding. You will still find that you need to work to pay for this event as well as spend time with your future husband and keep up with friends and family. As a result, it is extremely important to set aside specific time each day or week to dedicate to wedding planning. Use your calendar to mark out this time and outline what you need to accomplish. This will create wedding planning/life balance that will help you stay sane. Realistically, no bride wants to be Bridezilla!
2. Research, Evaluate and Make the Decision! – In this day and age you will never run out of options for finding information about a particular area of your wedding. Between the internet, magazines and bridal shows, you should gather more than enough information. This can be good, but it can also be extremely overwhelming and may leave you wondering, “What is the right choice?” Remember your theme, colors and budget when researching and evaluating your options. Once you have narrowed the field, make the decision. The clock is always ticking closer towards the big day and the more decisive you are, the less overwhelmed you will feel and more you will accomplish.
3. Know Your Budget and Stick to It! – We have all seen the shows where the princess bride spends without regard and shrugs her shoulders saying, “Oh well, it is what I want and I don’t care how much it costs.” The part of the show they don’t show us is the aftermath- when the big day is over and bride and groom are in debt up to their bottoms, can’t afford a house, and are now living in the basement of his parent’s house trying to figure out how to make ends meet. Save yourself the stress that will surely come if you go overboard and over budget.
4. Don’t be Afraid to Delegate – This burden does not have to be all on you. There are tasks and activities that you can delegate to trusted family or friends or even your fiancé. This is especially true for brides who are getting married in another town and are trying to travel between two cities to plan a wedding. Decide which tasks can realistically be handled by someone other than you. For example, when I got married, I delegated the task of Wedding Programs to my sister. She is creative and responsible, and the end result was fabulous! I never had to worry about it and she was thrilled to help contribute to my day.
5. Be Confident – Something Will Go Wrong! – Every bride believes her wedding will be the one to break with tradition and have absolutely nothing go wrong. My cousin believed this to be true. She bragged for months after her wedding about the fact that every detail she had planned went off without a hitch and she expected others to follow her guidance to achieve the same outcome. I give her kudos for fessing up a year later, after all this bragging, that her marriage license had never been signed by the minister nor filed properly in the state where she was married. Oops! Something will go wrong! It is inevitable. But, how you handle it will dictate how everyone else handles it.
6. Send Out Save The Date Cards – About 90% of couples are now wisely sending out Save the Date Cards. Most families are spread out across the country today and the invention of social networking has given us the ability to connect with old friends as well as keep up with people living practically anywhere. Giving people a heads up six to nine months before your big day will allow for two things: First, it will allow them to mark their calendars and make the appropriate arrangements. Second, it will allow you the opportunity to have a realistic sense of how many people will be attending your wedding. Word of caution – Don’t send out Save the Dates cards before the guest list is finalized! I had a friend who did this and when her dad gave her the final number she could invite, it was less then the number of Save the Date cards she had already sent out. It was extremely awkward for her and feelings got hurt.